Sunday, 25 November 2018

Winter Sunshine

Hey folks,

Not a proper post, but a bit of fun...and some information too...

I'm off on holiday till mid December, and don't want anyone to think I'm ignoring their e-mails, so if you do get in touch, I'll get back to you as soon as I can - but unless it's urgent (hogmanay ceremony anyone!??) it will be after that.

Meantime, two movies for you to watch:
The first is all sorts of fun that was had at the wedding reception for Mel & Colin in the summer...but just in case you think that the cartwheeling celebrant just does comedy shows (yes that was me)...
I've added in the 'real' wedding film too, which gives a more realistic impression of the ceremony side of the day.
It was a properly tear filled and heartfelt occasion, beautiful words, and beautiful music too, and yes there was fun in the ceremony too, but it all revolved around who these two are as a couple - and music and fun and NOT taking life too seriously is a big part of that.

Hope you all stay cosy while I'm washing the last 6 months screen time out of my eyes by staring at the sea, and refreshing my mind with a few bad spy novels.

Thank you to Colin & Mel for letting me share these AND Mel's son for aceing the photobomb!


Best wishes, hope you enjoyed the films...x j

Venue was Murthly Castle Chapel: Murthly Castle

Ceremony &  'Marryoke'  produced by 'Watch the birdie' films: Geoff at Watch the birdie

Sunday, 27 May 2018

Don't Tell the Bride...

Apparently it was seven years ago today I married John & Jackie Clark, amid much drama and hilarity, trying to work round camera crews and all the rest of it - as well as a ridiculous amount of hanging about...

I haven't watched it all this time round, but did skip through to the parachute jump, and the ceremony...via the best man modelling the dress...and then had to watch to the end.

 Don't tell the Bride Program Link

If you know how the program worked, you'll know that I spent a lot of time with John, and didn't meet Jackie until just before the ceremony, so we had to be really careful with the vows, as we didn't want to make her repeat or say anything she hadn't been involved in, so we kept it super simple - but that of course was made up for by the fact that everything else was pretty OTT.

Loved these two dafties - and they went on to do some great media work for the HSS afterwards, which was done with real conviction...humanists in every aspect of their lives.

Congratulations and happy anniversary to you both!

Friday, 27 April 2018

Holiday Note

Hiya folks,
Quick message today - I'm heading off on holiday for 10 days, a pre-season break!
...BUT I understand that the vacation response from my Humanist Society Scotland e-mail may not get to you if you enquire via the HSS website - so please don't think I'm ignoring you!
I'll respond to anything urgent pretty quickly, and be back in touch on anything else as soon as I can.
Hope you have a great holiday weekend! J

Photo by my awesome sister...I just wish I knew what the Stag was thinking!

Tuesday, 2 January 2018

Lovely update from Abi & Roger

Dear Jane!

Hello - its Abi and Roger here!
You may not remember us but you married us last year at Forter Castle.

Well almost a year in a half later I finally managed to get our wedding pictures printed and as we were looking through them Roger suggested I send you a quick email just to check in and again say thank you for such a wonderful and special day!
Wow it has been a very very busy year for us since we got married.
Roger left his job and went back to university and then finished his master s and started a whole new career as an auditor working in finance!
I have been very lazy chilling at home because on the 10th July 2017 we welcomed our beautiful daughter Willow Blossom Rebecca Allum into the world ha!Attached are a few pictures.

Hope all is well with you and again thank you for a unforgettable magical day!

Best wishes,
Abi, Roger and Willow Allum


Dear Abi, Roger and Willow,
Thank you SO much for these, just lovely, and very happy to hear you are both so happy!
I remember you very well, and have some lovely photos of you...esp' the one of you and your Dad Abi. (one of my better attempts!)
...and young Willow is just beautiful. Really. I might even do a wee update  on my blog if you'd be ok with me using her picture? 
Enjoy every second of  your time with her, and thank you so very much for thinking to write to me - I'll have BIG smiles on all day now! xxxxxx   J

Tuesday, 26 December 2017

Hiya Folks,
Hope you've all had a great start to the festive season,
This is a quick share in case you've not seen it yet...a montage of some of the best, strangest, funniest and just lovely bits & pieces of some weddings that my esteemed colleagues have been involved in!

New HSS Wedding Film

Sunday, 12 November 2017

Crieff Hydro with Katie & Laurie ( & Baxter the dog! )

This is just a taster of Katie & Laurie's day, as I couldn't resist putting up this wee film by David Gillan Photography, so waiting for the photos to accompany it was not an option - (now added!)

Between all the wee bits of the ceremony and the rest of the day that are shown though, you really do get an idea of the spirit of the occasion, and the warmth and humour they managed to imbue it with.......and just how much Baxter the dog means to them both!

Baxter is in fact a bit of a celebrity in his own right. Katie voluntarily runs Missing Pets Perth & Kinross and the Perthshire Dog Friendly website with places to eat with your pooch around here…and as she often puts up photos, Baxter has some pretty devoted fans - some of whom even sent congratulations cards to the Bride and Groom - via a favourite dog friendly cafe - when they read about the upcoming wedding!


Although I'd never met Katie before we started planning the wedding, I know her Mum and Step Dad pretty well, and have worked with Laurie a few times over the years...way back, Laurie worked with Katie's folks as a funeral director so we met first in that context, but he now runs the Highland Fling Bungee Jump place at Killiecrankie - and guided myself and my bungee jumping wedding couple through the safety and rigmarole of that crazy day! ( Bungee Jump Wedding! )

Katie and Laurie went for something a little more dignified - and the venue of course had to be dog friendly! - and it really was a lovely day altogether, with a very relaxed atmosphere despite the rather grand setting of the drawing room at the Hydro, the mood helped a lot by the fact that the bride was pretty chilled, and the groom more excited than nervous, and that seemed to keep everyone on an even keel!

There were lots of lovely elements to the day ( I was crazy about Katie's dress! Spot the wee Jewel on the chain down her back!) and I’ll write about more of them once I have the photos to add…but for now here is the poem that was read by Bridesmaid Robyn as they stood with their hands bound…There are several that seem to fit this spot – some serious, and some not so much – but I never tire of hearing this one read with feeling, by someone who loves them, as they think about the vows they are about to exchange…

The blessing of the hands 
These are the hands of your best friend,   
young and strong and full of love for you,
that are holding yours on your wedding day,
as you promise to love each other
today, tomorrow, and forever. 

These are the hands that will work alongside yours,
as together you build your future.       
These are the hands   
that will passionately love you
and cherish you through the years,
and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other. 

These are the hands
that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands
that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes;
tears of sorrow, and tears of joy. 

These are the hands
that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands
that will help you to hold your family as one. 

These are the hands
that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands
that even when wrinkled and aged,
will still be reaching for yours,
still giving you the same unspoken tenderness
with just a touch.

Poem: sadly anonymous

 Video by: David Gillan Photography
 Still pictures by  Crieff Photography

Thursday, 26 October 2017


This is one of my favourite subjects...for all the yummy reasons I can think of...and the options and approaches that all you wedding folk take are amazing...from the exquisite delicacy of perfect sugar paste roses,  black lace or the story of your lives - to cheese & fruit, Lego cake stands, art attack projects, and my own personal favourite...the Cake Table.

where do you even start?

The cake table is (I think?) quite a new idea for weddings, and is very simple, will appeal to every single one of your guests, and is very fact it often costs nothing at all...
You just write a list of all the best bakers who are coming to the wedding(and your aunties neighbour who does the Cherry Bakewell too!) and ask them to bring you their very best version of their very best cake...their own perfect show stopper signature cake to use the Bake Off parlance...

These are then all placed on the same table, and your guests get to indulge as they if Tarte Tatin is your all time favourite, then get stuck in! Brownies? over there...individual carrot cake with a half inch of cream cheese & lime topping? oh HELL yes..

Now, I am not against traditional wedding cakes in ANY way shape or form...but as a true cake lover, I want ALL the cake, not just a sliver of one kind with my coffee, which is as much as a lot of folk want...but then I see a confection like this rose extravaganza below, and I just love the artistry and effort...and in this case, spend ages trying to take a decent picture of it!

How beautiful are these roses? Just perfect.

Cake toppers have been getting crazier, more accurate and more fun too...Cally & Ryan pictured here had movie references throughout their ceremony so having them in the cinema with their box of popcorn made absolute sense...and the colourful ones I've seen a few of this year have been just beautiful...with the one on the right here all the flowers, toadstools and leaves were 3 D, rather than flat, and so beautifully made.

The Lego Cake stand here was the attraction rather than the cake itself...and is actually from one of my very earliest weddings, and I just found this picture in a random folder recently...which started my cake collection photo file!It really was a proper feat of engineering, and was a a cause of endless discussion before and after the ceremony...with actual arguments breaking out about the flying buttresses!

The one on the left here was a very elegant piece, and the flower were all the they were across the board that day...all the dresses, settings and the cake too were very simple and plain, but adorned with the themed flowers. A lovely idea...
and right, we have the love story of Andy & Ange, which I think I have on another post too...their dogs fell in love first on the meadows in Edinburgh under the cherry blossom...

On the right here we have 'naked' cake...with loads of cream and fruit, so actually quite simple, but looks amazing, and seriously yummy too...Then last but not least one of my all time favourites: Rainbow cake - which went with the rainbow bouquets,  rainbow table names, rainbow chair bands....
Incidentally, all the Groomsmaids were
dressed in Black - each of them carrying one of the bouquets you see here, and a matching ribbon to handfast the grooms together. Loved it!

PS: Every time I see the word CAKE in capital letters I think of this illustrated story...and now that CAKE is on my blog, I see it often.
If you have ever been a small child with a sweet tooth this may resonate with you...or if you're a parent, it may serve as a warning about the dangers of thwarting such a child...
This has absolutely nothing to do with weddings at all, and is only about the overwhelming desire for cake, but I suspect a few of you might enjoy it: