As you might know, Humanists don't have a book of rules that says what a marriage should be, understanding that each marriage is as individual as the couple who are making it their own. For Andrea and Tom, marriage means:
Accepting one another, in his or her entirety, as a lover, companion and friend. It means caring and working for each other so that each feels loved, safe and secure.
It means to give your support, patience, and try your best to be understanding (not always easy!).
Being there for each other when the other needs it the most. Helping with Architect exams!
It means putting a cold face cloth on Tom's head when he has a migraine...or is hungover.
Best of all, this marriage will signify a union of two amazing families, with plenty "character" (Jack's 'irn bur' kilt) and a lot of love to give.
In committing themselves to each other in marriage, Andrea and Tom will share laughter and tears, joy and sadness...they will not belong to each other, but will belong with each other.
They each understand that the commitment they are making today will require hard work and sacrifice on both sides, that their voyage through life together will sometimes be calm and may sometimes be story, but they know now that their love for each other will see them through.